Coping with Mother’s Day: Understanding the Emotional Impact

Mother’s Day is often seen as a time of celebration, love, and togetherness. However, for many people, this day can bring overwhelming emotions, triggering sadness, anxiety, or even suicidal thoughts. Whether due to the loss of a mother, strained relationships, infertility, or the grief of losing a child, Mother’s Day can be a deeply painful reminder of what is missing. If you find this time of year difficult, know that you are not alone, and support is available.

Why Mother’s Day Can Be Emotionally Challenging

  1. Bereavement & Loss – For those who have lost their mother or child, Mother’s Day can intensify feelings of grief and longing. The constant reminders in shops, on social media, and in conversations can make the day feel isolating and distressing.
  2. Difficult Relationships – Not everyone has a loving or supportive relationship with their mother. Those with estranged, abusive, or absent mothers may find the day emotionally complex and painful.
  3. Infertility & Child Loss – For those who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, or struggles with infertility, Mother’s Day can serve as a painful reminder of the children they longed for but never had.
  4. Postnatal Depression & Parenthood Challenges – New mothers or those struggling with postnatal depression may feel pressure to be joyful when they are experiencing overwhelming emotions, exhaustion, or mental health difficulties.

How to Cope with Mother’s Day

  • Allow Yourself to Feel – Acknowledge your emotions without guilt. It’s okay to grieve, feel angry, or experience a mix of emotions.
  • Plan Ahead – Decide in advance how you want to spend the day. Whether it’s avoiding social media, engaging in a meaningful activity, or spending time with supportive friends, having a plan can reduce anxiety.
  • Create New Traditions – If traditional Mother’s Day celebrations are painful, consider creating your own way to honour the day—lighting a candle, writing a letter, or engaging in self-care.
  • Reach Out for Support – Speak to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional. You don’t have to face this alone.

UK Charities That Offer Support

If you are struggling, the following organisations offer bereavement and mental health support:

  • Cruse Bereavement Support – Providing free counselling and support for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one. www.cruse.org.uk
  • Samaritans – 24/7 confidential support for anyone struggling with their mental health or suicidal thoughts. Call 116 123 or visit www.samaritans.org
  • Child Bereavement UK – Support for parents grieving the loss of a child and children dealing with the loss of a parent. www.childbereavementuk.org
  • The Compassionate Friends – Support for bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents. www.tcf.org.uk
  • Mind – Mental health support for those struggling with depression, anxiety, or bereavement-related stress. www.mind.org.uk

You Are Not Alone

If Mother’s Day is a difficult time for you, remember that your feelings are valid. Seeking support, reaching out to a trusted person, and allowing yourself space to grieve or process emotions can help. Whether it’s finding comfort in community, honouring your loss in a personal way, or seeking professional support, there are ways to navigate the day in a way that feels right for you.

If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. You deserve support, and there are people who care and want to listen.